[00:00:07] This is the Kate Dalley Show.
[00:00:14] All right, welcome back to the Kate Dalley Show on a Friday. And there's so much to say.
[00:00:41] And because I'm saying this on the radio, it doesn't mean you have to agree with me. But I don't know how many women are out there that will draw attention to the boys and draw attention to the dads. And we need more of that. And there's a lot of confusing things going on in society right now. And if there's ever a time when we need stability and households with stability, it's now.
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[00:02:07] And one day if I have to watch the tape, I'm going to cringe. But but we live and learn. Right. Just like I had to learn how to cook and I had to learn how to feed the family. And I love cooking. But I didn't start out that way. I didn't start out knowing how to cook. And I think that if you ask most men, because I almost think they're afraid to say this because they want to be. They want to not cause problems and they want to support.
[00:02:35] And so they're like, hey, it's fine if we do take out again. But I know men to a certain degree. And I'll say that they sure like a home cooked meal and they sure like it when their wives are happy to see them. They they like it when you're feminine and they like it when you're someone that is a nurturer to that family. I mean, tell me if I'm wrong. I guess I could be. But I think men are afraid to say that now.
[00:03:04] I really do. I think they're they're almost afraid to say it because of societal norm right now that we've created that says that says if you say that you're stuck in the 50s, you're one of those guys. You want to suppress women. And it has nothing to do with that. It's just about needs. Guys needs. Right. And, you know, there's a couple of things we did. I think we did right in parenting.
[00:03:31] And I'll share a couple of those things because I had a house guest who was asking me about this. And so I'll share this with you. But, you know, we gave the kids, you know, three days where they could choose if they three days a year. It was like, you don't have to play sick. You don't want to go to school. You don't want to go to church. Okay. Stay home. You know, your life. Okay. We're not going to make every decision for you. We're not going to cram it down your throat. Okay. Just say when. Right.
[00:04:00] And my kids loved that. They loved that. They thought that was the best thing ever. You mean I could just stay home. Yep. You can just stay home. Right. And so there were times when we were actually pretty good and pretty flexible in that. But they also knew that we had standards and values. They also knew what those values were. But I never wanted to cram anything down anyone's throat. Right. I wanted them to choose. And so I think that's important.
[00:04:28] And then dinnertime. Dinnertime was a big deal for us. Always a big deal that we sat around a table. And that we had dinner together. And I grew up that way too. And something about that is very nurturing to that family because then you're sitting and talking and you're in a situation where you have to talk. Right. And now it's now that the kids are out of the house, it's converted into a big Sunday, Sunday dinner, Sunday meal. And I'm usually cooking all day for that. So it's, it's fun.
[00:04:58] I love it. Are you kidding? Those are the, those are the best times. I wouldn't give that up for anything. I think sometimes now a days we, we, we get too busy and in that busyness and in the kids doing a million things and running the kids around, they forego the dinner, they forego the family time, they forego the vacation together. They forego being a family in order to accomplish and try to be the next NBA star or whatever it is. And I don't agree with that.
[00:05:25] But I think what you should lessen the time that the kids have things to do so that they can be still so they can read so they can, so they can go play in the dirt. I used to call it my spray and wash test. If you're buying spray and wash, because the kids are getting dirty out in the yard, that's a good thing. And so if you're buying a lot of spray and wash, you're, you're doing good, right? For those kids, because they're able to play and pretend and do all of those things. You know, yesterday I said, you know, the tomboy is extinct now.
[00:05:55] I, it's so sad to me that that's the truth, that we've turned it into this. It's, it's more about the parents needing mental health help than it is the kids. And I think sometimes, you know, we're in a situation where we allow societal norms to become the norm and it shouldn't be, it shouldn't be. And, uh, we're so afraid of offending each other now. And even this will probably offend somebody out there, right? They'll, they'll be so offended.
[00:06:23] Um, I just think that there's a big importance behind motherhood and, uh, and womanhood and feeling comfortable in your skin to be a woman. And you know what I have found? I have found that the good men out there, they'll cherish a good woman and they'll do all kinds of things for that woman if, if, and when that woman is also respecting them back and, and giving them their, um, innate, um, qualities and abilities. Right.
[00:06:52] I've said over and over again on the show that, you know, my husband is the leader and the guider of our home, right? That of our family, he's in that position. He knew he would be in that position when we got married. I knew he would be in that position. It doesn't make me less powerful to acknowledge that his innate sense of, of being a man is to lead and guide the family. And so as a woman, I'm not going to make every decision.
[00:07:21] I can't, I have to have him in on this decision-making process, just like he needs me in on this decision-making process. Because if I become the momager and I'm the only one in the, in the room and my presence is bigger than everyone else who gains from that? Well, it looks like only me, right? Family doesn't gain from that. And so what we do when we're teaching our, our young boys is, is that I'm a, I'm a pretty powerful gal.
[00:07:49] I'm a, I'm a pretty opinionated gal, but I also recognize that, that that man has a role in our household and it's the most important role. Right. And when my boys see that, then they also get a sense of, wait a minute, I have a duty to my family. And that duty means that really when you get right down to it, if you're a Christian, it
[00:08:16] would mean that, that that man goes to God to ask him how to guide and lead that family. And so the women aren't leapfrogging over the guy, the guy goes, the guy is, is, is in a position where he has a heavy mantle to guide and direct that family. So of course he wants to do, do it pretty well, doesn't he? And that would involve a lot of prayer.
[00:08:41] And it would also involve leading a pretty Christlike life to be able to do that. Right. Only makes the man better. Then it makes that family better. Like I said, you don't have to agree with anything I'm saying. I just feel like these things that I'm saying just in this, just short segment of the show aren't said out loud anymore.
[00:09:05] And that makes me sad because I think still a lot of people understand the roles of women and men and want to embrace them. But when the girls are taught now, you're all powerful and you just need to be a pampered princess and you just need to go do your nails and, and let the guy go work hard and make sure that you have every single thing. And I know that when people are starting out and getting married, what's great is that you're taking on that sacrifice together. You're building a family, you're building a life.
[00:09:36] And, and it used to be that we all kind of realized that getting married. And now I think things are changing a little bit and I'm not sure that it's in a positive direction. Um, the expectations is what I'm talking about. Even the expectations from society and on Facebook and on social media. Be right back. Kate Daly show. Kate Daly radio.com.